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What do you think about Anita's story? Do you think parents who adopt children should be allowed to give them back? Why or why not? Put yourself in D's shoes... do you think you would resent or appreciate Anita's decision and why?
35 comments:
I think that Anita made the right decision. I believe parents who adopt children should be allowed to give them back. The parents and the child may not be able to connect. If i was in D's shoes I would want to be with someone I could connect with and could be appreciated. This topic can be viewed with different aspects.
-Bryce L.
I think that Anita did what she thought was the right thing. I kind of agree wit her, but then again I don’t. If she wasn’t bonding the way she says there weren’t then I believe that it was right for her to give the baby up. All Anita was trying to do was get the best for baby D. She felt that she wasn’t the one who could do it. If I was D I think that when he got older he would understand that Anita only wanted him to be in the best environment after he was abandoned. Overall, I think that if I was Anita and I thought that I could not give him his needs then I would give him up too.
-Muhammad R.
It's sad but it happens all the time. I would rather the parents give them back if they can't handle it. I would rather the child have a life with a good family then one without a good family. D may resent Anita's decision later on but it all depends on the kind of person she turns out to be. She maybe mad and she may not, I guess only time will tell.
Austin
Anita's story was not touching, D's side almost made me want to cry. After everything that, that poor baby had been through, she took him in to give him a family, and love, then she gave him back. I have fifteen adopted cousins, at first they were a little shy and didnt fit in, but over time we all bonded, and we love each other, we have become a family. I do not believe if you adopt a child, you should have to keep that child. If they are being adopted out, they have probably had a rough life already, they do not need anymore confusion in there lives. I would probably resent Anita's decision if I was D, because she took him in, and them completelty let him go. That child was counting on them for a better family and life then he had been given in the previous family.
-Brooklynne D.
I don't think she is making since. She was saying she loved D very much. Yet she said there wasn't a bond. I think parents should keep their adopted child. If they adopted him/her then they should keep him/her. If I was in D's shoes, I would resent her because she said she loved him then gave him away. It is messed up and completely wrong.
Samantha =]
Anita's story is very confusing and weird. I don't agree with what she did at all. She could have waited a little longer to see the connection between them. I don't understand when she says that they didn't bond, D is only like a year old. I think parents who adopt children should not be allowed to give them back. If they commit, then they should be fully committed. If I were D I would resent Anita's decision because I would want to be loved and taked care of.
-Taylor Gay :)
I think Anita's story is weird. I don't understand the situation because Anita contradicts herself. Anita should have kept the baby longer and tried to bond with it as it got older. I understand that she was trying to do what she thought was best for D, but I think her family already had enough kids already. People that already have a large number of kids shouldn't be allowed to adopt because they will not be able to give it adequate attention. The parents shouldn't have been able to give D back because he is a special baby that will take extra time and effort.
--Brittany Oliver =)
I did'nt understand why she adopt baby D beacause she said that she love him but she said that they just did'nt get that connecting. So I think that she should'nt have gave up the baby because baby D could have been with the family but she just did'nt want the baby. I think she should have kept the baby. SO I think that was wrong of her she could have kept the baby but I guess she did'nt want him
I think Anita's story is terrible. Parents who adopt children should not be allowed to give them back. Adopting a baby is a big decision and they shouldn't do it if they're not positive that they can take care of the child. If they make the decision to adopt in the first place then they should know that they have to go through with that decision for the rest of their lives. If I was in D's shoes, then no I would not appreciate Anita's decision.
-Jessica :)
I could understand her situation. If you feel that you aren't capable to be the mom you feel you should be and you try to but fail, you should find someone to take him in. Same with an animal (respectively) if you can't take care of it even though you love it you love it enough to want it to be taken care of. Though I do condemn that she didnt ready herself I can't condemn her personal decision.
Honestly I don’t agree with her decision. In her interview she said multiple times that she loved the baby but yet after five months she gave him up. I believe that love is the strongest bond that one can have with one another. With her saying that she loved him but couldn’t bond with him I just didn’t understand. Honestly, if a parent adopts a child they are signing to be the ones in that child’s life that are going to be there for them through whatever may come. No, I don’t think they should be able to give up them. If I put myself in D’s shoes being the age his was he really didn’t understand what was going on. As he grows up to an age that he will understand what happened he will be confused. He might grow up thinking that because of his condition and what happened to him before he was adopted the first time that it’s the reason why he was not wanted. I believe that Anita should have waited a little longer before giving him up.
~Sherrell A.
I think Anita's story is a bunch of bull crap. How do you adopt a child then want to give him back because you don't bond it. I think i would appreciate Anita's decision if she put me with a right family. But if she put me wit a wrong family i would resent her.
-Schatese Cherry-Collins
I really disappointed in her story. I don’t think parent who adopt should be ably to give the child back. Going through an adoption is a long process and there plenty of other families out there that would want to adopt children. I would appreciate Anita’s decision because I wouldn’t want to be in a family that would appreciate me. Also, I wouldn’t want to be in an family that doesn’t no if they want me or not. -Alia H.
I think that Anita's story does not make sense to me. When a family tries to keep a baby and they have a good reason to give them back it would be ok. Some families just can’t afford to keep a child. I don’t think that if I were D I would not appreciate Anita’s decision. I would want to be loved and I would feel that if a person loves me than they would try their best to do what’s best for me. Just thinking about what his life is going to be like when he gets older makes me sad.
Quatesha Harris
I think she was a stupid person. How would you know in 5 months that your child would not have a bond. She said that she loved him thats should be all the bond the child should need now. I don't think a adopted parent should be able to give them back because as a parent you wouldn't want to give your own child up so why would you with any other. I would resent the person who would give me back because I would think that there was something wrong with me as a child.
~GIGI~
Anita's story is heartbreaking. It's terribly sad to see an adoption that just didn't work out. I personally don't think that parents who adopt children should be able to give them back. Parents who don't adopt go through some of the same struggles. I think that as a parent, biological or adoptive, you have to be willing to fight through the obstacles that life throws at you. If I were D, I would be really hurt to know that it didn't work out but in the long run I would appreciate her maturity and strength to do what she did.
Mallory H
I think Anita's story is sad, but not as sad as D's. I don't think you should be able to give back adopted children unless you are unfit to be a mother which she obviously is. I don't think that D will resent Anita because of how young he is. He probably won't even remember her.
~Danielle C.~
Caleb Stowe
I think that she is an idiot, you shouldn't adopt a child and then give him back. Although I think its wrong, I do believe that you should be able to give them back because sometimes its just too much to deal with, but that wasn't Anita's problem. I resent her decision and think that she is an idiot. How do you "love" someone but not have a bond with them? That's just stupid, she just needed an excuse to give back the baby. I believe that after adopting him she just realized that she didn't really want him.
I think Anita's story is sad. really and truthfully I don't she should have adopted to him... And apparently she says, "She loved him". But if you love someone would you give them up for adoption right after adopting him or her. That just makes no sense to me... If it was me I would have made sure I would have loved the child before adopting him or her. That just amazes me how crazy it is to adopt someone and then give them up. But I can see if they had money problems, or if the child didn't like the parents.
-Craig St.
I think that parents that adopt children should be allowed to give them back because if they decide they don't want kids then you don't want the kid to grow up and be abused because there parents didn't want him or her. So in my opinion they should be able to give them back but they should have a good reason because it's not good for kids to be moved back and forth all the time. If I was in D's shoes I would appreciate her decision in some ways, and resent her decisions in some ways. I think that Anita didn't give the kid long enough to be with her.
~Kayla(:
I think what she did was wrong. I don't understand how she loved him, but didn't have a bond with him. This story is so saddening. No, I don't think they should be able to give the child they adopt back because it's just going to make the child feel unloved. It's also going to be bad for the child being tossed from family to family. It's just wrong. I think he would resent her decision because, just because she didn't have a connection with him then, doesn't mean they won't bond together once he gets older. He's just a baby.
I just don't understand the story. But my though about the story was how can love him and give him up like that. I would of been up set about the whole problem knowing for a fact I brought him in my life. i really don't think they should be able to give them back.No I wouldn't of not appreciate the decision because that would break that child heart.
Jesmine Murphy
I don't think Anita really loves her baby. If you can't bond with the child, you don't love the kid. Parents who go into adoption shouldn't be able to give back the kid. Going into adoption, you have to know that you want the baby and accept anything about the baby. I feel so bad for the little baby. He's only about one so of course none of this is his fault.
Erica Owens
I think that its crazy. I just don't understand how you can bond with a baby. Like if you love a child at all you have a bond. Love is the strongest bond there is. I think they should be able to give kids back if they don't want them because if not it could hurt the child in the long run. I would resent her decision because I would feel she just didn't want me. I mean he's a one year old so I'm sure he had some kind of connection with her.
-Summer Wilson
I think Anita deserves to be slapped, because I do not understand how you love someone but not have a bond. The baby was a little less than one year old, how could be not bond with you?! I do not think parents who adopt child should be able to give them back because that only confuses the child even more. If you are not sure about an adoption, you need to wait until you are. I would appreciate her for thinking I deserved better, but what if she was all he wanted.
~Andrea Johnson
I think Anita’s story is really strange. I think its strange because she says that she loved him, but didn’t bond with him, how is that possible? I don’t think people who adopt children should be able to give them back, because you have to think about the child. The child will get very attached to you, and giving them back could hurt them emotionally, even if they can’t talk. I also think that you need to consider every factor before you adopt a child. I think I would I would resent Anita’s decision if I were D because after being left on the side of a high-way then finally being placed in a loving home you want to give me back. I think that’s messed up. I really hope D is put into a loving and caring home.
-Roielle <3
This story really got to me for some reason. I can't even try to understand where this lady is coming from. Through the whole video she kept saying she loved him but didn't have a good bond. My only question is how can you love someone but not have a bond. To me the bond would come first. I understand a little about her not feeling the same as her 5 biological children, because those are her children and he's not, but she should've realized that it wasn't going to be the exact same a long time ago. She could've also given it some more time to try and make things work. On a different side I do think you should be able to give them back, not because you don't want them but because that child could grow up with a terrible life in that certain house.
-Amber Bass
This story is personal to me because I was to adopted when I was 14. I appreciated my adopted parents very much for taking me in an raising me but we never got along, we came from two tottaly different places and always butted heads about everything so I left when I was about 16 and lived on my own. When you adopt a child you are letting and innocnet stranger into your home, it takes time to get to know someone and you always have to remember that they will never turn out the way you want, that the child did come from another place and may have characteristics that you do not agree with but its still a child and you should love them anyway. I think that Anita did the right thing by giving the child back even though the child will be disturbed after bein placed in yet another home, you shouldn't keep that child if you cannot see him or her as your own, to me its not fair to the child its not their fault that their original birth parents couldn't care for them. In the end if I were D I would eventually appreciate Anita because she didn't force me to stay where I wasn't welcomed.
Brittany Posey
I do not think that Anita actually loved D like she said she did. She did not give him enough time to get used to her and for her to get use to him. I do not really understand her because how can you love someone and not bond with them? I think they should be able to because if they do not want the child anymore they may mistreat him/her then the child has to suffer. I would appreciate her decision because then maybe I could get adopted and really loved and cared for by a real family.
~Shaquii
Im not really sure what to think about this story. I mean... to adopt a child and then give him back is not something that u hear about in every day news. Thats just like saying that you don't want anything to do with him. The little boy was only a year old. And just because this women already had several kids does not have any thing to do with it. Im not sure if I would adopt a child and then just give them back just because you dont feel a connection with a child when its not even really "your child!" When a family adopts a child into there lives you are supposed to love them and care for them just like you would your own children. And no matter what the circumstances may be you should still love that child and give them a chance to form a so called "bond" or relationship with you and if they don't then that's up to you what you want to do with them then. Anyways, I think that this story is kind of sad and just a little bit out of wack.-Cadeja Wilson :).
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